Where am i going wrong dating
In many cases, our major source of how to get women to like us are our peers – and that’s often a case of the blind leading the blind.
Moreover, those who are blessed with a seemingly-innate affinity to women – “Naturals” in PUA lingo – often don’t what they’re doing.
PUA culture deals with this pervasive fear by in a multitude of ways.
The most obvious is the use of the 10 scale – referring to women in field reports (effectively “after action” reports of how their night went, posted to various forums and sub-reddits) as HB (for “hot body”) 7 or 8 instead of by name.
It’s more socially acceptable for women to admit that perhaps they could use some help in getting better at attracting a partner – whether for romance or sex.
As a result, there’s an entire industry built on women’s dating advice, from magazines to books to TV shows.
On Wednesday, a Kickstarter project for a self-published book on picking up women entitled “Above The Game” started rocketing across blogs and Twitter. Ken Hoinsky shared excerpts from the upcoming book on r/seduction… As soon as the controversy broke, he took them down, but the Google cache is still available.
Women are socialized to be more open with their feelings and insecurities, to not feel ashamed for asking for help or admitting weakness.
And in fairness, there’s a lot to learn and appreciate from the Pick-Up community.
I’ve spent time in it myself in the beginning of my own personal transformation.
It’s one thing to try to rank how attractive a woman is relative to others; physical beauty is as much in the eye of the beholder after all.
But in PUA culture, the rating is treated as a than a 6 or a 7 because she’s going to be that much “harder” to “game”.